The following are strategies that should be considered by the parent who is objecting to the move. However, every situation is unique, and you should consult with a competent attorney with respect to your own situation.
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- Attempt to negotiate an initial custody agreement that provides for joint physical custody and that provides you as much of a timeshare as possible.
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- Attempt to negotiate an initial custody agreement that provides that neither parent can change the residence of the child from the surrounding area without the court’s permission.
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- Encourage the relationship between the child and the other parent.
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- Be involved in the major decisions affecting your child, such as education, health care, extra-curricular activities.
- Avoid making negative comments about the other parent to or in the presence of the child.
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- Exercise all of your visitation rights. Do not break visitation plans unless absolutely necessary, and if you have to break plans, reschedule immediately.
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- If the custodial parent does not allow you to see the child during your scheduled visitation time, maintain a calendar that documents each time the custodial parent did not allow you to see the child and your follow-up communications.
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- If the custodial parent requests the right to move the child, ask for a thorough custody evaluation and an evidentiary hearing or trial where you can present evidence on the reasons against the move.
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- Be prepared to tell the custody evaluator and the court your proposed custody/visitation plan for how you will take care of the child if the other parent moves away without the child.
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- Be prepared to tell the custody evaluator and the court who will care for the child while you are at work, whether it is family, day-care, or after-school programs.
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- Make sure you know the names of the child’s best friends, teachers, and doctors.
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- Confer with a lawyer as soon as you find out about a possible move-away situation. You need sufficient time for a custody evaluation, potential depositions, and a trial.